Sex Addiction – Is It Really a Disease?

Perhaps you have heard about sex addiction but don’t know too much about it. People hear about different stereotypes that fit the disease and many assume it’s a made up disease that perverts or overly sexual people use as an excuse for their behavior. But, NO! Sex addiction is a real, recognized medical condition that has only come to light in recent years within the psychological and medical profession.

Another reason many people don’t know much about the disease is because most addicts don’t freely talk about sexual disorders. They are either too embarrassed, uncomfortable or ignorant about the topic to discuss it openly with family, friends, or others. As a result, there are many misconceptions and stereotypes about sex addiction that are completely untrue.

When someone hears the term sex addict… Many different thoughts come… Are they thinking about the person who kidnaps and rapes children, the spouse who has multiple affairs, the person who exposes themselves or peeps in windows… or is the person who views pornography at work, or stays online for hours on end… or is the person who has sex with underage partners… or is the “pervert” in the raincoat with the long beard who lives in the scary house at the end of the street… And the example go on… There are so many misconceptions of the term sex addiction.

The National Council on Sex Addiction and Compulsive defines sexual addiction as the “engaging in persistent and escalating patterns of sexual behavior acted out despite increasing negative consequences to self and others.” Essentially, this means that addicts are so strongly compelled to carry out their addictive behaviors they are willing to risk their:

Health
Relationships
Financial well-being
Employment
Freedom
and in some cases criminal charges.

This disease is much more than someone using it as an excuse for reckless sexual activities. It is a disease, much like alcohol or drug addiction.

In fact, clinicians and researchers have defined the disorder based on criteria used for chemical dependency literature. According to Psych Central, these criteria include the following:

— Frequently engaging in more sex with more partners than intended

— Being preoccupied with or persistently craving sex; wanting to cut down and unsuccessfully attempting to limit sexual activity.

— Thinking of sex to the detriment of other activities or continually engaging in excessive sexual practices despite a desire to stop.

— Spending considerable time in activities related to sex, such as cruising for partners or spending hours online visiting pornographic websites.

— Neglecting obligations such as work, school or family in pursuit of sex.

— Continually engaging in the sexual behavior despite negative consequences, such as broken relationships or potential health risks.

— Escalating scope or frequency of sexual activity to achieve a desired effect, such as more frequent visits to prostitutes or more sex partners.

— Feeling irritable when unable to engage in the desired behavior.

As you can see, all of the criteria focus on repetitive activities that are carried out continually by the sex addict. The nature of the activities also is defined by escalation, which is also typical of any addiction. Professionals feel that if a person engages in three or more of the above criteria for a period of at least six months that they are a suffering from sex addiction.

The American Psychiatric Association has issued its own set of preliminary criteria for what they call “Hypersexual Disorder.” Essentially, it is another term for sexual addiction. The symptoms are similar to the above criteria and can be used by medical professionals to help identify sex addiction in people who are seeking help or are in desperate need of care.

It is important that the level of awareness about sexual addiction increases among the general public because there are myriad people suffering from this disease in silence. If it were better understood, addicts would feel more comfortable to come forward and seek treatment. As it is right now, addicts are often ashamed, embarrassed and afraid of how people would react to their sex addiction.

Are Multiple Orgasms Good For Health?

Question: Are multiple orgasms good for health?

The answer is a simple ‘yes’ for women. We’ll come back to this.

For men the answer is not as straightforward. Although sexual energy is known to have therapeutic value, frequent ejaculation is not considered good for a man’s health. A man’s semen is considered to be the essence of life. The literal translation for the word ‘to ejaculate’ in Chinese is ‘she-jing’ (‘to ejaculate essence’). Frequent ejaculation is thought to deplete vital energy.

If a man is capable of experiencing multiple orgasms that are dry, then that’s considered to be beneficial for health. Sexual energy is the most powerful human emotion whether it involves ejaculation or not. Being the most powerful energy, it can impact the entire nervous system to flow, thereby causing the vitalising of every cell in every organ of the body. Multiple orgasms without multiple ejaculations are considered good for a man’s health. Whereas multiple or frequent ejaculations are not so.

Question: Why are multiple orgasms good for a woman’s health?

The energy of an orgasm produces a powerful, positive, therapeutic impact on a woman’s nervous system without depletion of life energy.

The intensity of an orgasm is without question the most satisfying as well as health enhancing. Halle Berry is heard to say to go for the intensity, without holding back. And she is right.

However, the most beneficial for a woman is to have multiple after multiple orgasms as well as the intensity. This is where sex becomes an art, and is extended to the art of health. This form of art has interested Taoist health seekers for quite a few hundred years.

Question: How many orgasms can a woman have in one sex session?

Up until 10 years ago, there was written report of twenty five orgasms in one sex session. Now, as far as this author is aware, the figure has gone to 35.

Question: Can this kind of multiple after multiple orgasms be achieved without practice between two partners?

It is unlikely. While multiple orgasms can be a norm for many women, multiple after multiple orgasms to reach 35 require two intimate partners to know each other well and to craft it as an art.

Question: Does age have something to do with it?

A woman is considered to become stronger sexually as she ages. If she is strong sexually in her 20s, she will improve in her 30s; and she is likely to get even stronger in her 40s.

To your happy and steady increase of wellness and happiness,

Jennifer Jianjun Wang
www.jw38coaching.com

Penis Health Sex Tips for Busy Lovers

Text the boss. Answer emails. Pick up the kids. Buy groceries. Pay bills. People today are busier than they’ve ever been – arguably, too busy. Certainly when couples find themselves too busy for sex, something has to give. Assuming a guy has maintained proper penis care and the issue is availability rather than ability, men (and their partners) may find these tips valuable as a way of helping busy lovers make time for sex – and by extension, better penis health.

Start the day right

Most guys assume this means getting in a quick one before work – and, hey, there’s nothing wrong with that. But most busy couples feel a little too time-pressed for that. Instead, couples need to make some time just to be together. An ideal way is to set the alarm for, say, five minutes earlier than usual. When the alarm goes off, just wrap arms around each other and cuddle up for a few minutes. A little nuzzling and kissing is good, but it’s more about just being together.

Get clean together

After a few days of cuddling in the mornings, set the alarm 10 minutes earlier every so often and take a shower together as well. Again, this doesn’t have to include actual sex – although it’s fine if it does. But it’s more about being naked together, running hands along each other’s bodies. Sure, it may mean that someone – especially the guy – may get aroused and feel a little frustrated if there’s no time to act on that arousal. But it may also make a couple more committed to setting aside time when they can fulfill each other.

Keep it up during the day

Even if there’s been no time to plan for sex, keep reminding the partner of how much they matter. Playful (or suggestive) little texts, an email with a link to something that interests them, a quick phone call – all this can help keep both parties feeling connected and anxious to share themselves more fully.

Schedule it

Sure, making an appointment for sex seems not-so-sexy. But not having sex at all is the ultimate not-so-sexy. The most basic of tips for busy people is to make an unbreakable date and time and keep to it. It may mean getting the kids out of the house, skipping the gym, letting the boys have their night out on their own, turning the cell phone off – some kind of sacrifice needs to be made. But it is worth it.

Enjoy it

This may seem unnecessary, but a surprising number of busy lovers put so much pressure on actually getting to have sex that they don’t enjoy it when they do. Make the evening relaxed and fun. Don’t worry about whether there will be an orgasm – or even necessarily if there will be penetration. Let the night be about getting back in touch with someone important and exploring their physical and emotional self. Go in without expectations and enjoy whatever comes along in whatever form.

Another of the more popular sex tips for men, busy or not: Be sure your penis is in good health. Regular application of a top notch penis health crème (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil, which is clinically proven mild and safe for skin) is perfect for this. When choosing a crème, see if its ingredients include a powerful antioxidant, such as alpha lipoic acid. Good antioxidants pack a punch that debilitates free radicals, knocking them out before they can create the oxidative stress that makes penis skin look aged and unhealthy. The crème should also include pantothenic acid, aka vitamin B5. Pantothenic acid is crucial for cell metabolism and the maintenance of healthy penile tissue.