Sex Tips for Chubby Lovers

Passionate lovers come in all shapes and sizes, but sometimes men of a larger frame may be in need of a few minor sex tips in order to make their sexual escapades a bit more satisfying. Naturally, proper penis health is important for chubby lotharios, just as it is for men of any size and weight. Beyond that, however, there are a few things that the man with something extra needs to remember.

With that in mind, the ample man might want to consider the following.

– The penis may appear a bit smaller. In terms of function and quality, it’s absolutely true that penis size is far overrated; unless a man possesses a member that is truly a micropenis, most men have a tool that is of sufficient size to provide great satisfaction to both him and his partners. However, it is true that penis size often has a psychological effect on both the owner of the tool and the recipient of its largesse. It’s also true that in some overweight men, the penis appears smaller due to excess poundage that hides a small portion of the shaft where it meets the body. If a man is in this situation and is bothered by the fact that his organ is not of the length he desires, he may wish to try shaving his crotch. Denuding the groin of hair often has the effect of making the member appear larger, even though its true size remains unchanged.

– The man should work on upper body strength. If a man and his partner tend to favor sex positions in which the man is on top, the man needs to make sure he can support his weight; the partner will be much more comfortable if s/he does not have to bear too much pressure from above. Although a gym has several machines that can work on upper body strength, there are plenty of simple at-home exercises, such as push-ups, that a man can employ instead.

– Think about pillows. The missionary position may also be more easily accomplished if a pillow (or two) is added beneath the partner’s buttocks. This will raise the vagina and create an angle at which ample lovers may achieve penetration more easily.

– Consider positions. Sex tips often come down to simply, “What is the best position for this situation?” For many larger men, placing the woman on top is a better option. This may become an issue when the male’s stomach droops down a bit too far into the crotch, covering part of the tool. In these cases, again, a pillow may be a good idea. By raising his own crotch higher, the excess poundage around the middle moves back, allowing greater ease of access to the rod. Doggie style is also a very popular position for plus size men, and there are numerous others to consider (e.g., the flying V, which is basically the missionary position but with the woman’s legs lifted up and her feet or calves placed on the man’s shoulders).

The key for large lovers is to take into consideration one’s weight, the manner in which it is positioned on the body, one’s strength and one’s mobility and to seek out positions that work best in different circumstances.

As mentioned earlier, making sure the equipment is in proper health is among the most valuable of all sex tips for lovers of any size. Regular use of a top-shelf penis health cream (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil) can help tremendously in this area. Select a cream that includes in its ingredient list L-arginine; this helps in the creation of nitric oxide, which in turn helps keep blood flowing to the penis appropriately. Also important is a quality antioxidant, such as alpha lipoic acid. A powerful antioxidant helps offset oxidative and aging processes at a cellular level and keeps the penis from looking wrinkled and unattractive.

So, Is Coffee Good for You, Bad for You, Or Does Anyone Really Know?

It seems there are always stories in the media about the effects of coffee and caffeine. Some tell of challenges to your health, others boast about how healthy it can be for your mind, preventing early onset Alzheimer’s, or improving memory. Some say coffee is good for your heart, some say it’s bad. Sometimes I wonder if it isn’t who is paying for the study that determines what the results will be, or how those results are displayed in a positive or negative light?

Recently in the BBC Health News Online there was a troubling article about Coffee and Strokes on May 5, 2011. The article was titled; “Sex and Coffee Trigger Stroke” by James Gallagher a Health reporter from BBC News. In the teaser paragraph it stated: “Coffee, sex and blowing your nose could increase the risk of a type of stroke, say researchers in the Netherlands.” Of course, everyone is saying that despite this troubling evidence, additional studies will be needed to know for sure. Even the “Stroke Association said more research was needed.”

Well, that’s interesting news isn’t it now, but I doubt many of us are going to give up coffee, or sex for that matter. Nevertheless, I believe this proves my point. That is to say how can we trust such a study or research project? After all, for every one of these negative research papers about Coffee, I can find you several more that put caffeine and coffee consumption in a positive light as long as it’s done in moderation. And for someone to say that sex is bad for your health, I’d like to remind you that if your parents never had sex, you wouldn’t be here, and we wouldn’t be discussing this anyway.

Perhaps we should take these research papers with a grain of salt and realize that some things are good for us and some things are not, but most everything in moderation probably will not kill you. It’s better to go through life happy, and with a positive attitude than to deprive yourself of the things that you enjoy. If you drink a cup of coffee a day chances are you will be fine. After all, there are many centenarians, those people who are now over 100-years old who drink coffee every single day and have since they were in their 20s.

It didn’t kill them, and it probably won’t kill you either. Indeed I hope you will please consider all this and think on it. If you have any comments, questions, case studies, or other research along this line of thinking that you’d like to discuss then please shoot me an e-mail.

The Disease of Sex Addiction II

Many people resist the notion that sex addiction is a disease. But in The Minnesota Model, a seminal book on addiction recovery, Spicer points out the similarities between chemical dependence and the disease concept. Borrowing from George Vaillant’s The Natural History of Alcoholism, Spicer shows how chemical dependence, like a disease, cuts across cultural and socioeconomic lines, is progressive, has specific signs and symptoms, and has a recommended course of treatment. In our view, sex addiction is no different. Here’s why:

Does Not Discriminate

First, like other diseases, sex addiction is an equal opportunity disease. It could care less about your race or culture. It doesn’t care about the fact that you’re young, middle-aged, or elderly. And it doesn’t care if you’re broke or wealthy. It’s a debilitating disease that affects people from all walks of life without discrimination or prejudice.

Progressive

Second, like other diseases, sex addiction is progressive. The frequency, intensity, and measure of risk increases with time. Masturbation may progress from once-a-week to three times a day. What began as a once-a-year trip to get an erotic massage turns into a twice-a-week event. The need for greater intensity leads to greater risk-taking. In the process, sex addicts contract sexually transmitted diseases, get caught in sting operations, and even commit suicide. Spicer writes that “people with a disease find their responses are less flexible.” The sex addict’s response to the normal ups and downs of life become progressively confined to a single, destructive response: the search for sexual satisfaction.

Has Recognizable Signs and Symptoms

Third, like other diseases, sex addiction shows certain signs and symptoms. Addicts often display some of the following symptoms: a deep feeling of shame and guilt following acting out behavior, constant obsession with acting out, and general malaise if unable to engage in the behavior. They also show the following signs: an inordinate amount of time spent in the pursuit of and recuperating from sex, unsuccessful attempts at stopping their behavior on their own, and decreased engagement in social, professional, or recreational activities. Once people acknowledge that they need help, they complain of having most, if not all of these signs and symptoms.

Has a Recommended Treatment

Finally, like other diseases, the diagnosis comes with a set of specific interventions that promote recovery. In its simplest form the prescription is this: individual therapy, group therapy, and 12-step meetings. In the process of participating in these relational activities, one needs learn about their disease and the tools needed to recover from it, how to manage their emotions without acting out, and maybe most importantly, how to be honest with themselves and others. When sex addicts follow the suggested course of treatment, it’s our experience that they recover to live happy and meaningful lives.